Why LIE???; The Truth About Men & Women

Men, while great can be extremely a pain. They developed and, with some of the stupid shit they do, maintain that thin ass line between love and hate! And for the few good men out there, feel free to substitute all of the men used in this post with woman, so you can relate, because I know there are some tired ass women out there. It is so sad how men feel like lying keeps them on top of their game. When they are too naive to realize we knew they were lying when they opened their mouths. There is no need to lie in relationships or friendships for that matter. I will be damned if I called a friend someone that lies to me; shit the truth hurts but it is far better than living a lie. I encountered what I thought was fate until he only said what he felt he had to to get what he wanted to be, not knowing that if I didn't ALLOW it none of the shit he said meant anything and none of the shit we did would have occurred. It's so funny how niggas think they got game and they are sooooooooooooo on top, but women are usually 5 steps ahead. We know whether we want to have sex with you the moment we meet you, so don't EVER think it was your game that got you that far. We just like to front so we don't come off as promiscuous. We know right off hand what role you will play in our lives. Whether you'd be strictly a friend, potential relationship candidate, for lonely nights, or just good to have around to entertain whenever everyone else falls through! If you are just honest from day one, you will get very far with a woman. No matter how many times people say "watch what you say" or "you can't tell a woman that" you would be surprised if you actually tested it out what the outcome may be.

Now before I continue I must say that all women are not the same! But a strong 90% of us are smarter than man. And that is only because there are far too many dead beat dads are leaving woman to raise their kids on her own; so that independence, strong will, dedication and drive are now normal characteristics for new age women. Patience is wavering; shit we thinkin' why wait when you can do it yourself in less time! But it is only his fault!

So, anyway, I am sure you know what you want from a woman when you meet her as well; so if she is just for sexual purposes let her make that choice. If you tell her you are not interested in a relationship and all you want is sex, there is a 50-50 chance you may succeed. Then you don't acquire a harasser and risk death, cause a woman's feelings are something that should never be played with! Just always remember "a man only gets away with what a woman allows you to" and if you are getting away with a lot of bull you better believe that woman is doin' that fool on you also. There is either a man in your absence or she is either to dedicated to work to care and you are probably just being used for sexual fulfillment at that point! I could talk about this shit for ages, but bottom line lying is for the birds man. JUST TELL THE TRUTH!

To Conquer or Be Conquered?

Is it better to conquer or be conquered by love?

I have an answer that is truly logical, but first let me express, general assumptions and concerns. It is a common belief that if you are conquered, no matter what the situation is or entails, you are weak. Or if you conquer love you have won! Neither are entirely true.

When have you ever truly understood something that you did not get challenged by? Enduring without challenge or consequence allows one to become oblivious to the process; causing it to be routine. When you are stuck in routine you don't give the process much thought. It's mechanically embedded in your brain, you body, you system, it's habitual. But when you get thrown an curve, you are startled, causing you to fail. Now don't get me wrong, some bounce back, but 80% of us stutter or fail to recover. This is when you become weak, but is weak bad when you learn? Is weak bad when you now know the consequences and have the capacity to plan for the next time? Weak is not failing! Weak is failing to recover! So to be conquered by love is to be hurt, and it hurts bad, but it makes you all the better for the next ride. It makes you strong enough to give him/her a second chance. Without being conquered, you could never conquer love. Love is not as fundamental. It takes effort, care, thought, persistence, desire.

So is it better to conquer? Being in a situation oblivious to surroundings. Ignoring the fact that he may be cheating because you are ignoring him, his desires. Overlooking her passions, not giving support for her endeavors. OR to conquer? Learning from the mistakes and turning it in to that CAKE that you want and desire to eat too! Making it work from failing. By the way, definition of fail should be recognition of faults, acclimation of efforts to try again. NOW that's LOVE & AND CONQUERING! Looking back on 15 years into marriage without regret and undying devotion!

Here is another poem! This is just FOOD for THOUGHT! Hope you enjoy.



Is it better to conquer

Or to be conquered by love

I don't know but I felt defeated

And it felt good

To love without fear

To share without worry

Or regret of my unselfishness

Because you appreciate it

And

At the same time I won

A man with integrity, and morals

Who loves me in spite of

Because

I have my heart's desire on lock

And where he is

Is everywhere that I want to be

And I am

Everything he seeks

I have conquered

But can you really win before defeat

Its an humbling experience

And its never appreciated

until defeat exceeds