In order to be able to effectively recognize and grow in love one must experience a series of trials and learning experiences in the form of lovers. Some people are just capable of accepting, delivering and recognizing love once. They have to discipline to stay and work on perfecting it. Others, like myself, learn from doing. The more you experience, the more you learn and with that the love timeline is developed. I just happen to believe that you will not find that one until you experience the following:
THE FIRST LOVE
The first love is the one you laid eyes on and knew you had to have, or you were caught off guard by the connection you uncontrollably developed. In most cases he/she is the first crush or first lust. That individual you develop your first connection with. You gain confidence in yourself and in your relationship. You become comfortable. You build on likes and dislikes, but the connection of the soul is never developed. This is your introduction to love, being in love is still foreign.
THE LESSON
Usually the first encounters are ridiculous. You are embarrassed or he/she is nothing that you wanted ever. But that one day you looked into their eyes and something about them melted you away. You wanted to give it a chance and you did, so you learned and grew in love with them. The person that you bared much pain, put up with much and learned nothing until he/she was gone. During this relationship you loved hard, but you loved wrong. Still played by insecurities, could not love what you saw, always wanted to changed something. Settled for much because you began to believe true love would never come. The lesson occurs post relationship; kind of like an epiphany. Light bulb goes off and you are over them. No longer attracted to the individual. Some people become friends with this individual, but most often they have the greatest affect. It was because of them you found your place in and with love.
HEART BREAKER
This person is usually the individual that you gave the most to. You loved hard, gave your all and the two of you either did not see eye to eye or you allowed your feelings to guide. Love is blind here. You heard what you wanted, believed what you wanted skewed you perception of reality. With the heart breaker you are naive. All that you expected is all that you would never receive. You long for all that you were not willing to give. This in turn lead to heartbreak. You are sadden because you gave your all (or thought you gave your all) and got nothing in return. In some cases you may even experience great shame. So, you decide to turn hurt into hatred to get over 'em. But, they still affect you however, because every time you encounter this person your mind and body want them still, but your heart and soul divert. So you know even though they still touch you in a way, you know it will NEVER work. You decide that there is no need to experience HEARTBREAK twice.
THE TEST
This individual made you vulnerable to fast. You feel in love because your mind allowed you to believe that you were on the same page. The only thing is, you were in it alone. It started out great, thought you had it all figured out. Blamed yourself for that persons actions, experienced a great deal of reverse psychology. Never what you expected, just happened and when it happened it was so good that you thought they were the ONE. Not really! Just a facade because this person usually uses you in the TEST the way you used the THE LESSON to bounce back from THE FIRST LOVE. THE TEST is just to show you how it feels.
THE SOUL MATE
One look in the eyes, that subtle touch, "me toos" and soul tunes on the same station. Love like nothing you would ever think you would experience, fairy tail shit. Unselfishly you gave and expected nothing in return. It's so funny how easy love turns to being in love and you did not force it. This person is the ONE, for lack of a better term. This person is someone you encountered when you are mentally ready to embark on the journey. You lived hard and loved harder; you learned and longed for this individual so you vowed that when you found them that you would do right. No one could make you harm this person. There was no one that would stand in the way. This is that person whom makes you warm, soft, and emotional. Love made perfect, and you love all the imperfections. Feel heat even when you here them pissing...Its real. The MATE for the SOUL; all loves trials have unfold your true destiny. And now all the tales every told about being in love, make sense.
